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March 08, 2010 |
| mrteen asks: |
Well, my mother just died recently of lung cancer. I took it really hard, but I haven't really let my family know exactly how I'm feeling. But, I dont't really have anybody to talk to and I don't want to talk to dad because I'm not comfortable talking to him. I'm not comfortable talking to the school counselor or the principal, but there is a teacher that I am. He coaches track and he also goes and lifts weights during his lunch hour, so it gets hard to. The main reason I want to talk to him is because he lost his dad to liver cancer when he was just a couple years older than me, so he would understand better than anyone else. My question is how can I talk to him, and how can I approach him about it? |
| logomaniac says: |
You could always stop by his classroom after school. Having dealt with the loss of a parent myself, I know it is very hard to find someone to talk to openly and candidly about it. Since he has gone through a situation like yours, it's understandable that you would feel comfortable talking to him. Stop by and be honest, let him know that you were wondering if it was okay to talk to him about what you're going through because you think he might be able to help since he can relate. He might have to schedule a time you can talk to him since he is so busy but hopefully he'll be able to find some time to talk with you or maybe if he is too busy he could suggest someone that he knows of that can relate to what you're going through as well. There's no harm in asking him to talk though.
And I definitely want to say I'm sorry about what you are going through. It's extremely hard to cope with losing a parent. You are on a very good track though, with trying to find someone you feel comfortable talking with. And I definitely wish you the best . |
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March 02, 2010 |
| Meh asks: |
I'm a freshman in high school and have had a crush on this girl for two years now. I know [tell myself] there's no chance of us ever being together and thinking about her is a a kind of crutch which is the last thing I need with my work and hobbies. Is there any way to stop liking someone? Thanks.
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| wilddawg says: |
Why do you appear to be obsessed with her? Why do you think you're wasting your time with her?
Think a bit about both questions and if you need to, talk to someone like a therapist or someone that will give unbiased information.
Find new activities that take your mind off of her. If issues transpire, journal your thoughts and feelings. Also, making a list of pros and cons may help you move on.
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March 02, 2010 |
| Anonymous asks: |
Well, one of my best friends was raped over the summer. She told me his name, but since it was the summer before high school and the boy was a junior, i had no clue who he was. And his name was a really common one, so I never even suspected it. Anyway, he's been sitting at my lunch table for a few weeks and I didn't realize who he was. I just figured it out the other day and asked my friend if it was him. I want to say something to him, yell at him or SOMETHING!! But, he's really REALLY big and really scary and my friend is out of school because he scares her so much. I'm scared that if I say something to him, that I'll become one of his targets. But shes one of my best friends and she helped me when I was going through a really hard time and I feel like I owe it to her to do something. And I want to, really want to, but I'm scared. Can you help me? |
| wilddawg says: |
Avoid contact with him because there's a strong chance he hasn't changed. Honestly, the only thing that will change him is the CRIMINAL JUSTICE system if enough evidence was gathered last summer and there's a chance he can be prosecuted.
The only thing you can do for her is support her and make sure she's venting her thoughts/reactions and she's getting individual and perhaps group therapy for being violated. |
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