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| Topic: |
General |
| Date: |
November 06, 2009 |
| Cryssie asks: |
| I have two x-es.. Willy and Connery.. Willy broke my heart in many ways.. The first few times he just broke up with me for no good reason, maybe two or three times he flirted just a little too much with other girls.. Then the other two, he did un-good things so I broke up with him..
Here is one of my crazy weekends:
I was going out with Connery for three weeks.. I happened to talk to Willy on Myspace on a Friday.. He told me he was jealous of Connery. Yeah, he wanted me back.. So I broke up with Connery on Friday and was going out with Willy.. Then I felt bad the next day so I cheated on Willy with Connery. (I had to beg Connery to come back to me for an hour.. Literally) So then when I talked to Willy on the phone, I felt bad for him so I told him that when we were at school I was going out with Connery and he was going out with his gf, but when we weren't at school I was all his.. (Yeah, he had a gf).. Anyway, so I cheated on Connery. I was a little confused the next day so I told Willy that I was gonna break up with Connery so I could be all his.. So that's what I did.. I was all Willy's.. He broke up with his gf for me.. And yeah..
So this is a few weeks after I started going out with Willy:
He was flirting just a little too much one day.. and I got a little sick of it.. I told my best friend Brianna that I was gonna break up with him.. She came with me.. I told him it was over in front of his friends and went on with my day.. I felt all happy for some reason.. Later that day I went on Myspace and saw his status. "got kissed on the bus 3 times good times".. basically saying I suck at kissing.. (Which I don't.. Believe me).. so yeah that got me mad..
A few weeks after that:
I wanted him back.. Bad.. I told him I was really sorry and asked him to come back to me.. Out of all the things he could have said, he said this "well you lied to me so idk".. and he hasn't lied to me?!?! wow.. he told me to look up the song "No Surprise" by Daughtry.. Yeah.. The lyrics told me what I didn't exactly want to hear. But I heard them. And that made me mad.. Really mad.. I went to Connery's house because his mom was trying to get us back together.. Yeah he wouldn't budge.. (Oh by the way, Connery and Willy were best friends.. so that's why Connery didn't want anything to do with me.. or him.) So we went out to eat.. Me, him, his mom, his brother, and his brother's friend.. While we were there, his mom completely being on my side, she called Willy's family up and basically cussed them out.. So I wasn't allowed to call there anymore.. (Me and Willy's sister are really close friends by the way.) So that sucked..
And Now I'm finally almost done:
So I've been trying to get Connery back again.. and I wish I were like him.. He doesn't let the ones who hurt him back in.. I just kept taking Willy back even though I knew he was gonna hurt me again (that part is over cuz i WILL NOT take him back one more time).. Connery won't take me back this time.. And I don't blame him. But he's finally talking to me again.. That I can deal with..
Who do I keep fighting for?? The one who hurts me, but I still want? Or the one who I helplessly love but won't take me back?
I'm hurting myself no matter what road I choose to take: To fight for Willy means to get my heart broken by him doing something horrible to me.. To fight for Connery means that I'll get hurt by not having him.. And to choose neither will mean I'll hurt by seeing them every day of the week, and knowing I won't have either of them ever again...
I really don't know what to do.. And I'm sorry if this took forever to read.. :'( |
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| logomaniac says: |
I think the real question you need to be asking has nothing to do with which guy you should fight for but why aren't you fighting for yourself. You seem to be so caught up by these two guys that you are losing a bit of respect for yourself.
You don't need to hang all over a guy who has a gf, he isn't worth your time. If he was willing to cheat on his gf, he's probably willing to cheat on you.
As for the second guy, I can understand why he's hurt and upset. He has every right to be. I strongly suggest that you accept the fact that you used him to an extent and should never have done so. I also suggest that you definitely take a break from dating until you can handle it a more appropriate way.
When you are with someone, you need to fully invest yourself in that relationship. If you cheat on that person, you shouldn't be confused when they don't want you back. I really think you need to take some time to evaluate your prioritiies as far as relationships go and figure out what exactly you want. I also think you really need to stay away from both of these guys. You'll continue to get dragged into this kind of drama if you don't. |
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| Topic: |
Dating |
| Date: |
November 05, 2009 |
| cheergurl_72 asks: |
| Ok so there this guy at school who is really shy that I think is cute. When ever I see him he always looking at me and I get butterflies in my stomach. However I'm shy to and I do not know what to say to him. We now who each other because we have a class together I just can't get the nerve to talk to him or what to say. What should I do? |
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| logomaniac says: |
| It can be really hard to work up the nerve to talk to someone you have a crush on. That happens to everyone. Since you are both really shy, I would suggest that you try to work up to talking to him though instead of just hoping that he'll eventually talk to you. You wouldn't want to miss out on the opportunity simply because you are both really shy. Just talk to him a bit in class at first so that ya'll can get used to each other instead of trying to rush into a long discussion about something or starting to flirt right off the bat. Take it slow and hopefully you'll not only get over a bit of your shyness but you'll also either have a new friend or a new potential relationship. |
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| Topic: |
General |
| Date: |
October 24, 2009 |
| Unknown asks: |
| What do you do if your best "guy" friend wants to take things further and you just want to keep your friendship the way it is? |
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| logomaniac says: |
You tell him how you feel. It can be awkward, but it's best to be honest with him up front. Because it will be a whole lot more awkward if you aren't.
Sometimes people don't click- it happens. And can't be helped. In order to keep the friendship it's always best to be honest right from the start. |
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| Topic: |
Dating |
| Date: |
October 18, 2009 |
| greeneyes2 asks: |
| ok soo i have like or loved or whatever it is the same person since 8th grade and yes back then we were together but i didnt really know him soo i ddint really like him and yes i admit i did some messed up stuff to him but i was confused and after that we went through a lot together and well now we are in 11th grade and he claims too hate me but yet he still calls me and comes over but will not even look at me at school ughh i need help what do you think? |
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| logomaniac says: |
| If you think the reason behind him not talking to you in school is because of what you did to him, then I would suggest talking to him about it. Let him know that you are sorry and that you'd really love it if the two of you could move past it and that you hope he feels the same way. It would be understandable if he is wary of getting involved with you again after it didn't work out the first time, but you were both much younger so you might have a better chance of something working out now. But the first step would seemingly be to repair your friendship with him, I don't think he would still call and come around if he didn't want to have a friendship with you so if you honestly apologize for whatever it was that you did, I think you might have a good shot at repairing the friendship and maybe afterwards working towards a relationship with him. |
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| Topic: |
General |
| Date: |
October 15, 2009 |
| nemo114 asks: |
| hi there um i wanted some advice on wat i should do well i am a sophomore and there's this boy i like his name is johnny he is in ma school i liked him since may of 2009 and i don't know how to talk to him but in June i sent him a message and from there we were talking like buddy's all through summer vacation but wen we went back to skew in September and in nutrition and lunch i hanged around wit his friend named charlie which was my friend too and my friend charlie called him over in lunch so we could talk but wen he came over he just stared at me and said hi and left so he pretty much walked out on me and my friend charlie told me that he has asked him that what he thinks of me and that he says nothing but today when i was walking to my class and i pass by his class he was outside alone but when he saw me he called one of his female friends and hugged and grabbed her from her waist and he looked at me if i was looking but his female friend didn't want to hug him but he just hugged her on purpose so wen i saw that i kept walking but his friend charlie called me over wen he was hugging that girl and me and charlie were talking and having a good talk and charlie offered himself to walk me to class and johnny just looked at me and went inside class and charlie and johnny are friends, today i was hanging around wit charlie in lunch because he asked me if i wanted to hang around wit him and i told charlie yes so i went and hanged around wit charlie in lunch and johnny was starring at me every single minute but wen me and charlie passed by johnny he stared at me and he went up to one of his other female friend and just hugged her from the back and kept walking with her and he looked back to see if i was looking but i noticed he only does that when he sees me but i don't know if he is doing that to make me jealous or to mess around wit my head...and johnny is single.....i definitely think he wants to make me jealous because he sent me a message and it said to tell me best friend that he said "watz up" please help me i dont know what to think anymore...=[...thanx i appreciate it alot |
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| wilddawg says: |
Honestly, it appears Charlie likes you and Johnny is either just a friend or someone who now is trying to make your life bad. I honestly think that Johnny could be shy and does care about you but again if he did, he wouldn't be acting like a jerk.
Follow your heart and decide if you want to give Charlie a chance or be both of their friends and wait til the right (neither of them necessarily) guy likes you and you feel the same. |
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| Topic: |
General |
| Date: |
October 15, 2009 |
| nemo114 asks: |
| hi there um i wanted some advice on wat i should do well i am a sophomore and there's this boy i like his name is johnny he is in ma school i liked him since may of 2009 and i don't know how to talk to him but in June i sent him a message and from there we were talking like buddy's all through summer vacation but wen we went back to skew in September and in nutrition and lunch i hanged around wit his friend named charlie which was my friend too and my friend charlie called him over in lunch so we could talk but wen he came over he just stared at me and said hi and left so he pretty much walked out on me and my friend charlie told me that he has asked him that what he thinks of me and that he says nothing but today when i was walking to my class and i pass by his class he was outside alone but when he saw me he called one of his female friends and hugged and grabbed her from her waist and he looked at me if i was looking but his female friend didn't want to hug him but he just hugged her on purpose so wen i saw that i kept walking but his friend charlie called me over wen he was hugging that girl and me and charlie were talking and having a good talk and charlie offered himself to walk me to class and johnny just looked at me and went inside class and charlie and johnny are friends, today i was hanging around wit charlie in lunch because he asked me if i wanted to hang around wit him and i told charlie yes so i went and hanged around wit charlie in lunch and johnny was starring at me every single minute but wen me and charlie passed by johnny he stared at me and he went up to one of his other female friend and just hugged her from the back and kept walking with her and he looked back to see if i was looking but i noticed he only does that when he sees me but i don't know if he is doing that to make me jealous or to mess around wit my head...and johnny is single.....i definitely think he wants to make me jealous because he sent me a message and it said to tell me best friend that he said "watz up" please help me i dont know what to think anymore...=[...thanx i appreciate it alot |
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| logomaniac says: |
It sounds like him might like you but doesn't know what to do about it. In a perfect world he'd just go ahead and ask you out if he liked you and it wouldn't be confusing, but it often is.
He might not know how to act towards you. When people start talking as friends on the phone or online it can be awkward to try to continue that friendship in person. If you want him as a friend I would suggest you hang around a bit more with him. Just casually. And then you can see where that goes. You can't just expect him to make the first move, he's probably as confused as you. Dating is notorious for being confusing in high school. |
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| Topic: |
General |
| Date: |
October 11, 2009 |
| onceuponatimegurl asks: |
| This guy and I have been really good friends for a long time. I've never really had any romantic feelings toward him. He's just someone I like to hang out with. Lately, though, I've found myself getting really jealous when he talks to and flirts with other girls. So much so, that I have actually convinced him not to go out with some really nice girls.
I really want my friend to be happy, and I don't think I want a relationship with him, but I don't know why I feel, or how to keep from feeling, jealous. |
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| logomaniac says: |
Feeling jealous about him talking or possibly going out with other girls does make it seem as if you have feelings for him. I think it would be best for your friendship if you really try to think about whether or not it's possible that you do have feelings for him because sometimes feelings change when you are close friends with someone.
If you do think that maybe your feelings have changed for him and that you want more than friendship it's better to act on that than to possibly hurt your friendship by not figuring out now where this jealousy is coming from. |
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| Topic: |
Family |
| Date: |
October 10, 2009 |
| XmasVampire asks: |
| I got a letter to attend this cool trip in Australia (a place i would like to go to) but i visit my dad and other family in the summer, should i go if it means not seeing them? should i tell my dad first? help please and thank you! |
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| logomaniac says: |
| It really depends. Family is very important but if this trip is something that is important to you I'm sure your family would understand you going. If you usually go to visit them in the summer it would be thoughtful for you to let him know that your plans have changed and to let him know why. |
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| Topic: |
Dating |
| Date: |
October 09, 2009 |
| He Could be the One? asks: |
| Well, My Aunt's a dental hygienist and she cleans alot of guys my age teeths. Lately I've been trying to stay away from guys. I've been hurt one too many times. Well last week my aunt told me bout this guy whoshe cleans his teeth. His name's Tyler & he's 16. Only a year older than me. :) I thot she was just trying to play match maker and it'd never work. Wed. afternoon we were in town when we ran into Tyler & his mother. He was nice, it was just kinda ackward with us not knowing eachother & all. Well I have his number and he said I could call him whenever I wanted too. I wanna call him, but I'm kinda nervous. What if I don't talk much? Or what if it's way too ackward? What should I do? I'm so confused. He seems like a great guy, but I dont want it to be ackward. |
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| logomaniac says: |
| It probably would be a bit awkward, things like this usually are. It tends to be unavoidable and even though it may not seem like it, it's perfectly normal to feel a bit awkward. I would suggest that you call him if you like him- if you don't then you lose out on a possibly great relationship or friendship. You don't have to talk a lot, maybe come up with something ya'll could go do so that you can suggest that instead of feeling like you need to have this drawn out conversation on the phone with him the first time you call him. |
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| Topic: |
Dating |
| Date: |
October 09, 2009 |
| RachelTrump asks: |
| I have been dating this boy josh for over 1 month. We have homecoming tommorrw night. He wants to plan on having sex with me and i had a bad experience a few months ago and im scared. What should i do? |
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| wilddawg says: |
Say no! Wait a little bit please because your past with sex, the quickness of the relationship, and I doubt there's time to clear your thoughts of the past and define guidelines or discuss pregnancy and STD fears and prevention.
There's a chance that he just wants the sex and if that's it, he's not worth it.
It's your body and your life, so however you proceed is your business and I wish you both the best.......
Yet, please look at the D&R and sex sections of resources.student.com. |
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